Archive for June, 2009

Christian Music News June 30th 2009

Posted by ian On June - 30 - 2009

Yet another reason for me to not be happy that Im not at Cornerstone Festival right now, The Red Baron have unofficially announced that their shows at the festival will be their last.  Waiting for Blood & Ink Records to confirm..

I have seen the artwork for The Almost‘s new album called Monster Monster. Its awesome, but Tooth & Nail wont let anyone post it. So you will have to wait. Sorry.

So, some of the best news EVER! Sunny Day Real Estate (featuring Jeremy Enigk as frontman) have reunited all their original members and are going on tour. Alongside the tour will be digitally remastered versions of both of their classic albums, along with LP versions with new liner note artwork. We already have our tickets to the Austin, TX show, check the dates below:
Sept. 17: Vancouver (Commodore Ballroom)
Sept. 18: Portland, Ore. (Crystal Ballroom)
Sept. 20: Salt Lake City (Murray Theatre)
Sept. 21: Denver (Ogden Theatre)
Sept. 23: Minneapolis (First Avenue)
Sept. 24: Chicago (Metro)
Sept. 25: Detroit (St. Andrews Hall)
Sept. 27: New York (Terminal 5)
Sept. 28: Boston (House of Blues)
Sept. 30: Washington, D.C. (9:30 Club)
Oct. 1: Philadelphia (Trocadero)
Oct. 3: Atlanta (CW Center Stage)
Oct. 5: Dallas (Granada Theatre)
Oct. 6: Houston (Warehouse Live)
Oct. 7: Austin (La Zona Rosa)
Oct. 9: Tempe, Ariz. (Marquee)
Oct. 10: Anaheim, Calif. (House of Blues)
Oct. 11: Los Angeles (Fonda Theatre)
Oct. 13: San Francisco (Fillmore)
Oct. 15: Spokane, Wash. (Knitting Factory)
Oct. 16: Seattle (Paramount Theatre)

Paramore‘s new album, entitled Brand New Eyes, will see a September 29th release date. Here is the artwork and track listing:
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1. Careful
2. Ignorance
3. Playing God
4. Brick by Boring Brick
5. Turn It Off
6. The Only Exception
7. Feeling Sorry
8. Looking Up
9. Where the Lines Overlap
10. Misguided Ghosts
11. All I Wanted

Hip-hop artist Thi’sl (how in the world do you pronounce that?) has a new video for his song “Windows Down”. Watch below:

Tooth & Nail’s latest signing, Breaking The Silence, have changed their name to The Letter Black, along with adding a new drummer and second guitarist. Member changes and the release hasn’t even come out yet….looking good.

White Collar Sideshow recently posted a massive update on their recent and future travels. Read White Collar Sideshow update.

Here is the album artwork for Abandon‘s upcoming release, Searchlights, which will get a August 25th release date.

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Indie folk artist Orion Walsh will release his new EP, entitled Freedom Lost Or Freedom Found, on August 4th.

Syntax Records hip-hop artist Braille has a new video for his song “Skepticold”

Here is the new artwork for Leeland‘s new CD, Love Is On The Move, due out August 25th.

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Two items from the mewithoutYou camp. The first is an interview with Aaron (lead vocalist) concerning the lyrical content of their latest record. Read mewithoutYou interview.
The second was an announcement for a very unique tour:
(taken from their myspace page)
Fans of mewithoutYou will get to see another side of the Philly experimental band this fall when the Weiss Family hits the road this August for a tour with Damien Jurado and Psalters. This will be an intimate version of the band for fans and an alternate take on their classic songs that you won’t want to miss!
Joining brothers Aaron on acoustic guitar and Mike Weiss on electric guitar will be Mike’s wife Sarah on keyboards, along with Matt Chapin on trumpet. Look for a few surprises, friends and additional instrumentalists as well. This is most definitely not an “unplugged” outing; however, the percussion section will be far from the traditional “rock drums” mewithoutYou fans are used to. It is a chance to hear mewithoutYouWeiss Family puts a new twist on their impressive body of work. They’ll also be mixing it up with an eclectic selection of covers, but you’ll have to check out one of these shows to find out what they’ll be!
Joining on this tour of family and friends with be songwriter Damien Jurado and gypsy tribal activist band Psalters.
songs interpreted in a new way as the
WEISS Family Tour dates
Sun/Aug-16 Buffalo, NY Mohawk Place
Mon/Aug-17 Akron, OH Musica
Tue/Aug-18 Covington, KY Madhatter
Wed/Aug-19 St. Louis, MO Off Broadway
Thu/Aug-20 Memphis, TN Hi-Tone Café
Fri/Aug-21 Tulsa, OK The Marquee
Sat/Aug-22 Springfield, MO Outland Ballroom
Sun/Aug-23 Nashville, TN Rocketown
Mon/Aug-24 OFF
Tue/Aug-25 Columbia, SC New Brookland Tavern
Wed/Aug-26 Carrboro, NC Cat’s Cradle
Thu/Aug-27 Virginia Beach, VA The Jewish Mother
Fri/Aug-28 Baltimore, MD The Ottobar
Sat/Aug-29 Allentown, PA Crocodile Rock

I know some of you have been waiting for this one, the artwork for Skillet‘s upcoming CD, Awake, which will be out on August 25th.

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New Releases 6/30/09

Posted by ian On June - 29 - 2009

So Ive only got three albums for you. There are actually two more, but I already put them up in previous weeks, so I don’t really feel like posting them again (the new CDs from Mr.Del and The Crucified can be found in previous posts).  I know that sounded really snarky, but lets be honest, no one is reading this anyway…

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Adventures in Eville
Eleventyseven

Dance Rock
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Jason Crabb
Jason Crabb

Spring Hill Records
Country
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After The Storm
Greg O’Quin

Pendulum Records
Gospel

Essential Songs: The Artist In The Ambulance by Thrice

Posted by ian On June - 27 - 2009

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In 2003, a post-hardcore band calling themselves Thrice unleashed their major label debut on the world. The Artist In The Ambulance was a crushing display of talent, energy, and honesty. Despite the fact that the band was labeled as “hard rock”, leader Dustin Kensrue‘s lyrics reflected a more insightful and passionate way of looking at the world. For many, the crown jewel of this album was the title track; a song warning against apathy and being grateful for the time given.

The Artist In The Ambulance by Dustin Kensrue and Thrice

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Late night, brakes lock, hear the tires squeal
Red light, can’t stop so I spin the wheel
My world goes black before I feel an angel lift me up
And I open bloodshot eyes into fluorescent white
They flip the siren, hit the lights, close the doors and I am gone

Now I lay here owing my life to a stranger
And I realize that empty words are not enough
I’m left here with the question of just
What have I to show except, the promises I never kept?
I lie here shaking on this bed, under the weight of my regrets

I hope that I will never let you down
I know that this can be more than just flashing lights and sound

Look around and you’ll see that at times it feels like no one really cares
It gets me down but I’m still gonna try to do what’s right, I know that there’s
A difference between sleight of hand, and giving everything you have
There’s a line drawn in the sand, I’m working up the will to cross it and

I hope that I will never let you down
I know that this can be more than just flashing lights and sound

Rhetoric can’t raise the dead
I’m sick of always talking
when there’s no change
Rhetoric can’t raise the dead
I’m sick of empty words,
let’s lead and not follow

Late night, brakes lock, hear the tires squeal
Red light, can’t stop so I spin the wheel
My world goes black before I feel an angel steal me from the
Greedy jaws of death and chance, and pull me in with steady hands
They’ve given me a second chance, the artist in the ambulance

I hope that I will never let you down
I know that this can be more than just flashing lights and sound
Can we pick you off the ground,
more than flashing lights and sound

I thought it would it would be cool to show Dustin’s more stripped down version of it as well.

Hundred Year Storm On The ONE21

Posted by ian On June - 26 - 2009

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Hundred Year Storm is a progressive rock band from right here in Austin, TX.  After years of extensive touring and a strong fan base, the band kind of dropped off the map a few years back.  In 2009, they are back with a new album called The Future Belongs To The Brave. We were able to catch up with them at their CD release party/BBQ and talk about the history of the band, the sound of their new album, and what comes next for this extremely talented band.

NOTE:The video at the very bottom is actually just audio with a picture of their new album. I would suggest listening to it while you watch the interview.

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Visit the band on their Myspace: myspace.com/hundredyearstorm

a “video” for their new song “Dying Giant”:

The Best Of Voices Of The Undergound

Posted by ian On June - 25 - 2009

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For those that dont know, Voices Of The Underground was a series we developed to reach a broad range of opinions on some the topics we talk about here on the website. The idea was simple, ask a large group of musicians the same 15 questions, then roll out the responses one question at a time per week.   What resulted was an amazing ride through the hearts and minds of the artists that are creating the music you love. As we gear up for a new Voices Of The Underground, we thought it would be cool to highlight some our favorite responses from the 15 questions that we sent out months ago. Enjoy:

1.What do you love about music?

dirt DIRT (underground hip-hop artist and founder of Shadow Of The Locust)
Dirt
Music has the authority to move people… LITERALLY move them! From one emotion to the next. Music can save a life or end it. Music can change the atmosphere, good or bad. Music can start a needed revolution and quell a dictatorship. We receive music through our ears, but it is translated in our souls. Our brains deciphers the organized sound, but our hearts move us to action with the messages depicted.

2.What are some of your favorite albums/CDs?

hylandjon Jon (lead singer/guitarist for independent pop/rock band Hyland)
Hyland
Favorite albums… I’d say the blue Jars of Clay CD was one of my all time favorites.
I wore that thing out… DC Talk’s Jesus Freak and Supernatural are right up there. Anything by Anberlin. I’m huge on the Beatles. People would be surprised to find that I love Michael Jackson. He’s a genius. I have a rare B-side track of his that is just the vocal tracks soloed from the song. It’ll leave you speechless

3.What is the best thing about making music?

amycourts Amy Courts (independent pop/folk artist)
Amy Courts
I love all of it, really, because different parts of who I am, at my core, go into each aspect. In the writing, I’m forced to dig into the depths and offer what’s there, however it looks or feels, and suffer (yet enjoy!) a sort of vulnerability found nowhere else. But when it comes out in song, it’s utter relief. In recording, I love the daunting task of taking a skeleton of a song and giving it muscle, tissue, skin, and a face by doing my best – with the help of gifted producers and musicians – to make a full body out of the bones. And the live performance is like icing on the cake, where I get to pour my heart out and share something very raw and real with people who may or may not “get” it. And there is always such deep satisfaction in finding and knowing the people with whom it resonates. A new community is born.

4.What is your opinion of the music industry today?

sethinfrontendervence Seth (singer for independent hard rock band Endeverance)
Endeverance
My opinion on the music industry is that it has lost its genuine quality…I mean you look now it’s all about the popstar and not about being the artist, it’s about selling records and not making amazing art…I mean you look at American Idol all the other stupid Idol competitions, and my personal opinion is that they have ruined the music industry…Yes great musicians and artists have come from these places but the way winning is advertised on these shows is that it is all about being a star. And I just look back and see like Johnny Cash, Bob Dylan, and The Beatles, and it wasn’t about being a star it was about writing what you had on your mind and making the best music possible…And what needs to change is that the record companies have to quit prostituting all the artist’s and their music…I mean just get behind an artist and let them write a great song…Not maybe a hit song but a song that can strike a chord with the people and not just another useless pop song…

5.What impact has the digital age of music had on the industry?

echocastbandwb8David ( singer for independent nu-metal band Echocast)
Echocast
I think the digital age of music has made it a lot easier for smaller bands to reach a broader audience, but at the same time, its a lot more difficult to make a living playing music…

6. Who is Jesus Christ to you?

the_welcome_wagon_-_0938-c Vito (half of Asthamic Kitty indie/folk band The Welcome Wagon)
The Welcome Wagon
I believe everything the Bible says about Jesus. He is God’s Son, fully divine and fully human. And though he was in the form of God, he did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped. He made himself nothing, and took the form of a servant. Being born in the likeness of men, and being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

7.What is Christian music?

brookewaggner Brooke Waggoner(solo indie/pop artist on SlowMoon Music)
Brooke Waggoner
Anything that is created from the heart of believers: CCM, indie, rock ‘n’ roll, experimental – there’s Christians in all of these places.

8.What is your opinion of the Christian music industry?

mahoganyjones Mahogany Jones(independent hip-hop artist)
Mahogany Jones
I think that there is good and bad. There are people with pure motives to minister the gospel to people who need to understand the importance of a relationship with Christ, and there are people who use their gift as a means not to promote the gospel but themselves, and I feel that if we aren’t careful to ask God to keep us humble that we may be in for a rude awakening.

9.Do you think the Christian music scene is still important?

christaylor Chris Taylor (BEC solo artist/song writer)
Chris Taylor
Oh, it’s important. So, important that Christians should know when not to participate in a lot of things that go on in the scene. Just like any scene there are pitfalls but for Christians the Supremacy of Christ should be the primary goal in all we do.

10.Do you think people are more receptive or against artists of faith today?

domicballi Dominic Balli (independent Reggae/hip-hop artist)
Dominic Balli
If you’re trying to make an impact in the mainstream music world, branding yourself as a “Christian Artist” can be a hindrance for sure. Why? Two reasons I think. 1) True or not, Christian music has been stereo typed as not being as good musically as mainstream music. 2) The way that most Christian artists write music, the world can’t relate to it. The don’t know what we’re talking about when we use words like, God is “Holy” or “Glory to the King”. So they just brush it off as “Church music”.
So I don’t think it’s a matter of being taken seriously or not, I just think that to most people in the mainstream, they just don’t understand it and if they do understand it, a lot of the song writing is about 10 years behind the mainstream, so they’re not that interested in it from a musical stand point either.

11.Do you consider yourself a Christian musician?

runkidrundavidoneinhatDavid (lead singer/guitarist for Tooth & Nail pop/rock band Run Kid Run)
Run Kid Run
I hate this battle people put too much emphasis on this sure Christan musician whatever you want to call me..I’m a christian I play music our band plays tons of Christian events churches etc. So I guess you would say yes…but you wouldn’t label a doctor or a roofer saying yes I’m a Christian roofer..not that it’s a bad thing see it doesn’t matter people can call me a Christian musician or not it doesn’t matter.

12.What is the hardest part about being a musician today?

heathstripsinirons Heath(bass player for Holdfast Records metal band In Irons)
In Irons
Being a musician, overall, is hard. Its hard learning to play an instrument, finding people to play with, writing music, getting a band off the ground, finding transportation and just holding it together. It boils down to how bad you want it to happen. But if you’re able to get it all worked out, it can be some of the most fun you’ve ever had.

13.What responsibility (if any) does an artist have to it’s listeners?
dirt DIRT(underground hip-hop artist and founder of Shadow Of The Locust)
Dirt
I have always found myself frustrated with anyone who thinks an artist does not have any responsibility to his/her listeners. If you hold that opinion then make music for yourself, play it to yourself, buy your own CD and keep it to yourself. Music should motivate. We all have to decide what messages we really want to convey through our art, but at the end of the day, if it doesn’t motivate someone from one place to another, then what good was all our effort.
Sometimes people need to hate something… and music can make that happen.
Sometimes people need to realize something…. and music can make that happen.
Sometimes people need to be in love with something, fear something, grapple with something, revolt against something, embrace something… and music can make that happen.

14.Where do you see the music industry going?

brandonsayyouwill Brandon (bass player for independent pop/rock band Say You Will)
Down for a while more and then up up up up up. I think music will eventually all be free and they’ll use that as promotion to get people to shows and generate other sources of income for their artists. That’s essentially what is happening now. Some people still buy music on line though so they’re keeping the system barely a float. When they stop I think this will happen.

15.What is the best memory of your career so far?

domicballi Dominic Balli (independent Reggae/hip-hop artist)
Dominic Balli
Brazil, October 2008. 22 shows in 24 days. The most tired tour you can imagine but every single night we saw hundreds or thousands of people respond to the gospel. At the end of the day, the TV shows, Radio spots, screaming fans didn’t make the hard work worth it. Only knowing that thousands of people entered from death in to life. That’s the only thing that made it worth it.

Free MP3 Album Download:E.Bry-The Resume Vol.1

Posted by ian On June - 24 - 2009

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E. Bry is a hip-hop style DJ who makes some pretty sic beats.  In fact he has made a few of them, and collected them in Resume Vol.1, and is now giving it away. Thats right, free (like it says in the title). So download it and go into chill out mode, because E. Bry‘s stuff is smooth, layered, and a lot of fun.

For fans of: DJ Shadow, MF Doom, Flying Locust

The link below will take you to a Mediafire site.  Click on that button in the middle of the page, save the .ZIP file to your computer, and enjoy the grooves.

Download E. Bry- The Resume Vol.1

Christian Music News 6/23/09

Posted by ian On June - 23 - 2009

ANNOUNCEMENT: For the next few weeks, we will be not being posting a whole lot of new stuff. I will try and keep you up to date with the news, and get some free downloads up, but beyond that we are going on a bit of a blog hiatus. The reason is that we are killing ourselves to launch the all new The(ONE)21 Music website, including the biggest and most comprehensive source for Christian music artists on the web. We pray that you are patient with us and understand. Good things are coming…here are your headlines:

Brightwood has a video for their song “Swan Song”. Watch it below:

Rock/progressive rock band Abel have signed to Dreamt Music/Facedown Records. Read Abel announcement.

Holding Onto Hope have a video for their song “We Are The Beacons”. Watch it below:

mewithoutYou also has a new video for their song “The Fox, The Crow, The Cookie”. Watch it quick, because it will most likely get taken down:

So barely a month after their new album, Birtheater, was released, Oceana have decided to break up. Im sure their record label is SO excited.

Gwen Stacy posted a informative “20 Questions” interview on their Myspace. If you would like a quick rundown on this band, read the Gwen Stacy questionnaire .

A new video from Jars Of Clay for their song “Two Hands” can be viewed below:

Brian Lee & His Orchestra‘s new CD has been pushed back to a July 18th release date. It’ll be worth it!

Essential Songs: Are You The Walrus? by Furthermore

Posted by chuck On June - 22 - 2009

Furthermore- The Walrus- Essential Songs

Are You The Walrus? by Furthermore  Furthermore - Fluorescent Jellyfish - Are You the Walrus?

On the surface, this is a fun quirky rap tune.  However, if you listen closely and you watch the video the real meaning begins to surface.  As frontman Fischer stands in the supermarket check out line we begin to fill his isolation as a series of characters cross his path.  He observes them from afar,so immersed in his own needs  that he never connects with another human being despite encounter after encounter.  The isolation of modern living permeates Fischer’s mundane activities, just as it does our lives.

Are You The Walrus?
by Furthermore

Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check it out

I’m in line behind a barbizon
And she really looks like one
She says “Hi, I’m skin,”
And shows a whole lot
But doesn’t seem to have a whole lot
Within, I’m small talk
Blah, blah, blah, blah about the weather and all
Because I’d love to stand here
Another year, winter, spring, summer, fall
Into pieces it pleases the eye
It’s nice to know that there are problems outside of my own

I feel better, better
Move to ten items or less
Should I let her, let her, let me in front of her?
Sure, I guess
I’m close to checkout, she asks,
“Are you the walrus?”
I said “yes” without listening
“Oh, come on, be honest.”
I’m close to checkout, she asks,
“Are you the walrus?”
I said, “Yes, and that’s a promise!”
“Oh, come on, be honest.”
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest

I have five items in the waiting asylum
Take everybody’s burdens, let’s pile ‘em up
On the counter, call it a conveyer belt
And as I look around I see a wanna-be dad using his belt
On his screaming baby, a baby, oh baby
The constellation on her face said he did the same to his lady
Ten thousand maniacs asked the question
But it’s way too late, he made a lasting impression
I wish it wasn’t so, I wish it wasn’t so
But I’m not supposed to impose family values, you know
The sale of the century wasn’t meant to be like this
But how can you resist the madness?
I’m so glad it’s almost my turn
Only one lady away from the freedom I yearn for
But before you get excited,
She’s gotta check the writing,
I’m sorry to announce that the check is gonna bounce

I feel better, better
Move to ten items or less
Should I let her, let her, let her me in front of her?
Sure Iguess

I’m at the checkout
She asks, “Are you the walrus?”
I said “yes” without listening
“Oh, come on, be honest.”
I’m at the checkout,
She asks, “Are you the walrus?”
I said, “Yes, and that’s a promise.”
“Oh, come on, be honest.”
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest

Honestly,
We are moderately moving
Situation slowly is improving
I find the Percy Faith on the P.A.
Is sort of soothing
Collect my change and I jet
Then I’m cruising

Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check, check it out, check, check it out
Check it out

Wandering around looking for my car
I’m amazed at the maze
Who even knows where you are?
Who knows why that’s a cart resting in the dent it made?
Another car waiting for our places to trade
I wish it wasn’t so, I wish it wasn’t so
I wish I was in the distance and heading to home base
And now the race to red lights begin
When the convertible girl slows down to let me in
I feel better, better, like as if I was blessed
Should I let her, let her, let me in front of her?
Sure, I guess
I roll down the window, she asks,
“Are you the walrus?”
I said “yes” without listening
“Oh, come on, be honest”
I roll down the window, she asks,
“Are you the walrus?”
I said “Yes, and that’s a promise!”
“Oh, come on, be honest.”
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest
Be, be honest, be, be, be honest

Are lonely in a crowd?  Do you observe this modern world rather than participate?  How can we engage in a world of fatigue, stress and over scheduling?

New Releases 6/23/09

Posted by ian On June - 22 - 2009

So there is some great stuff coming out this week. I would highly suggest buying some CDs through our site today. If you are partial to iTunes, I will have those up tomorrow, but for now GO SUPPORT THIS MUSIC SCENE!!

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Maylene & The Sons Of Disaster

Ferret
Southern Metal
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Rumors And Revelations
Glenn Packiam

Integrity Music
Praise & Worship
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Wash Away
Don Poythress

Integrity Music
Country/Praise & Worship
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Sons Of Thunder
Sleeping Giant

Facedown Records
Hardcore
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Worldshaker
Mainline Riders

RetroActive Records
Rock’N'Roll
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Destiny
New Direction

New Haven
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Dust Of Years
Seventh Angel

Bombworks Records
Metal
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Cheaters & Thieves
Dignan

Progressive Rock
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Fatherhood On A Day

Posted by chuck On June - 20 - 2009

A father, a son and a believer, I have so many experiences of the beauty and exhilaration of fatherhood.  I have been blessed.  My father set a beautiful example.  I have been able to enjoy my sons all the way into their young adult lives.  I stand in the transcendent glow of our heavenly Father, no matter if I am the obedient or prodigal son.  So I put forth these ideas, not as an expert, but as an exuberant practitioner.

Three Simple Steps To Real Fatherhood

Be There- The deepest magic of fatherhood is to be present.  When my boys were just starting elementary school I changed jobs from one in which I worked 65 hours per week to one in which I worked 45 hours per week.  The block building, morning breakfasts and cloud watching is where the magic happens.

Enjoy- Enjoy what your kids enjoy.  I am a sport fanatic, my father hates sports.  He cannot tell you the winner of any Super Bowl, World Series or World Cup.  However, the stories of his Madden-like exuberance when I was playing football are legendary.

Teach- Through you words and your actions, teach your kids to be strong, to be kind, to be thrifty,to be curious, to be patient, to be determined and to love God.  Teach you children with words.  Share your principles with your kids, discuss the messages they are receiving from the world, share stories from you life and share God’s word.  Speaking values into your sons and daughters them will help them interpret the world around them, but your actions will cement their values.  Show your children how to live in this world by proudly allowing them to see how you live in this world.  Dave Ramsey said, “when you face challenges on your knees, your children will learn to pray.”

Fatherhood For The Fatherless

I know I am deeply blessed with a wonderful father. I am surrounded by family and friends who are not so fortunate. Those of you whose father abandoned you or ignored you or abused you or damaged you in some way, I have two thoughts for you.

Forgive-  This simple step will change your life.  I was in deep conflict with one of my sons.  He was in deep defiance of our rules for his life and over a three hour span of our argument he lied to my face more than a dozen times.  I knew  every lie and each was like a slash with a sword to me.  As he walked away from me, I stood there wounded, bleeding, devastated.  God spoke to me.  He said simply, “Forgive him, he is your child.”  I did.  Within 10 minutes my son had fallen into my arms begging for my forgiveness.  I had nothing but love for him, my wounds were already healed.

Your forgiveness will never take away the wrongs done to you.  Forgiving your father will not cause him to reconcile with you.  Forgiving, truly, deeply forgiving will heal you.  Here is a verse from mewithoutYou’s latest cd, it’s all crazy! it’s all false! it’s all a dream! it’s alright:

if you’re Old Man did you wrong,
maybe his Old Man did him wrong
so if you’d care to sing Forgiveness songs
come down and join our band
we’ll cut you like a Sword
and sing Forgiveness songs
(don’t worry, it’ll heal just fine)

Healing will change nothing, healing will transform you.  Healing will set you free.

Embrace- It matters not if your earthly father was great or a failure.  We are all wounded in some way.  God, our ultimate Father has created all and is present in our life.  God engages us with the simple mantra he spoke to me years ago, “Forgive him, he is your child.”  God is forgiving you now.  Look up, look inward, accept His forgiveness and love.  I don’t care if you are the most deeply religious church going father or you are lost and alone in this world.  Embrace our Father’s forgiveness.  You will be a transformed son,husband, father, brother, friend and man.  Nothing will change, but you will never be the same.

I dedicate this missive to Charles Elton Harvey of Vidor, Texas.  This kind, hardworking, stoic man showed me how to be a man and he is manifest in all that is the best in my sons.

Happy Father’s Day to all sons and fathers.